While a man was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car.
In anger, the man took the child's hand
and hit it many times not realizing
he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers
due to multiple fractures.
When the child saw his father.....
with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.
Devastated by his own actions......
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;
the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .
Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely
life & remember this:
Things are to be used and people are to be loved.
The problem in today's world is
that people are used while things are loved.
Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
Things are to be used,
People are to be loved.
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder..
I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face
Sunday, July 10, 2011
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Thursday, June 23, 2011
Healthy relationships
Healthy relationships
People in long-term, satisfying
relationships tend to do the following
(this advice is adapted from
Montgomery, Cole and Bradac, and
Canary and Stafford's work on
Relational Maintenance):
Slow, but Consistent - Relationships
work the best when people go slow
and take their time getting to know
each other. Whirlwind romances
usually end in disaster. It also helps to
be consistently supportive and
encouraging. Inconsistent behavior
causes misunderstandings and
uncertainty.
Keep Things Upbeat - Relationships
work the best when partners express a
positive and upbeat attitude towards
each other. Genuine displays of
happiness and affection go a long way
when trying to make a relationship
work. By contrast, relationships fail
when indifference, anger and negativity
become the norm. In fact, even a little
negativity can create a lot of problems
in a close relationship. This does not
mean that people cannot express
negative feelings in a relationship, but
that there are appropriate (and
inappropriate) ways of dealing with
one’s negative feelings (see, talk about
problems).
Approach Problems Together - Couples
feel closer and are more satisfied with
their relationships when they approach
problems and difficulties as a team.
Couples who take an US versus the
PROBLEM, rather than a YOU versus
ME approach to conflict are much
happier in the long run.
Don't Take Each Other For Granted -
Over time, couples typically take each
other for granted. At the start of a
relationship people appreciate all the
things that their partners do for them.
However, as time goes on, people tend
to expect more, but acknowledge a
partner's contributions less often. To
keep a relationship happy and healthy
it is important to show appreciation on
a consistent basis.
Appreciate Differences - Relationships
work the best when partners have a lot
in common, but respect and appreciate
the differences that do exist. It helps to
appreciate someone for who they are
rather than try to change them or how
they behave (see,relationship
dynamics).
Be Approachable - People need to be
able to talk freely with a romantic
partner. Sharing what is going on in
one’s life and how one feels about
issues is important to do. But, being
open with a partner is not always easy
because it requires spouses to tell the
truth and to LISTEN to things that may
be difficult to hear. Listening in an
attempt to UNDERSTAND, not control,
evaluate, or judge is critical to having
an satisfying relationship.
Express Commitment - Relationships
work the best when partners reassure
each other of their love and
commitment. It never hurts to tell a
spouse that you love him or her and
that you will always be there.
How does your relationship compare?
People in long-term, satisfying
relationships tend to do the following
(this advice is adapted from
Montgomery, Cole and Bradac, and
Canary and Stafford's work on
Relational Maintenance):
Slow, but Consistent - Relationships
work the best when people go slow
and take their time getting to know
each other. Whirlwind romances
usually end in disaster. It also helps to
be consistently supportive and
encouraging. Inconsistent behavior
causes misunderstandings and
uncertainty.
Keep Things Upbeat - Relationships
work the best when partners express a
positive and upbeat attitude towards
each other. Genuine displays of
happiness and affection go a long way
when trying to make a relationship
work. By contrast, relationships fail
when indifference, anger and negativity
become the norm. In fact, even a little
negativity can create a lot of problems
in a close relationship. This does not
mean that people cannot express
negative feelings in a relationship, but
that there are appropriate (and
inappropriate) ways of dealing with
one’s negative feelings (see, talk about
problems).
Approach Problems Together - Couples
feel closer and are more satisfied with
their relationships when they approach
problems and difficulties as a team.
Couples who take an US versus the
PROBLEM, rather than a YOU versus
ME approach to conflict are much
happier in the long run.
Don't Take Each Other For Granted -
Over time, couples typically take each
other for granted. At the start of a
relationship people appreciate all the
things that their partners do for them.
However, as time goes on, people tend
to expect more, but acknowledge a
partner's contributions less often. To
keep a relationship happy and healthy
it is important to show appreciation on
a consistent basis.
Appreciate Differences - Relationships
work the best when partners have a lot
in common, but respect and appreciate
the differences that do exist. It helps to
appreciate someone for who they are
rather than try to change them or how
they behave (see,relationship
dynamics).
Be Approachable - People need to be
able to talk freely with a romantic
partner. Sharing what is going on in
one’s life and how one feels about
issues is important to do. But, being
open with a partner is not always easy
because it requires spouses to tell the
truth and to LISTEN to things that may
be difficult to hear. Listening in an
attempt to UNDERSTAND, not control,
evaluate, or judge is critical to having
an satisfying relationship.
Express Commitment - Relationships
work the best when partners reassure
each other of their love and
commitment. It never hurts to tell a
spouse that you love him or her and
that you will always be there.
How does your relationship compare?
posted from Bloggeroid
Monday, August 23, 2010
Too Busy for a friend ?
One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the
other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space
between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.
It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student
on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had
said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list.
Before long, the entire class was smiling.
"Re ally?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much." were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again.
She never knew if they discussed them after class with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose.
The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on. Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student.
She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his friends.
One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin.
The teacher was the last one to bl ess the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her.
"Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes."
Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
"We want to s how you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times.
The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her purse and showed her frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times, " Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists."
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are
special and important.
Tell them, before it is too late...
AND ONE WAY TO ACCOMPLISH THIS IS:
Forward this message on.
If you do not send it, you will have, once again passed up the
wonderful opportunity to do something nice and beautiful.
If you've received this, it is because someone cares for you and it means there is probably at least someone for whom you care.
If you're "too busy" to take those few minutes right now to forward
this message on, would this be the VERY first time you didn't do
that little thing th at would make a difference in your relationships?
The more people that you send this to, the better you'll be at
reaching out to those you care about.
Remember, you reap what you sow, what you put into the lives of
others comes back into your own.
MAY YOUR DAY BE BLESSED AND AS SPECIAL AS YOU ARE.
other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space
between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.
It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student
on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had
said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list.
Before long, the entire class was smiling.
"Re ally?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much." were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again.
She never knew if they discussed them after class with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose.
The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on. Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student.
She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his friends.
One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin.
The teacher was the last one to bl ess the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her.
"Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes."
Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
"We want to s how you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times.
The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her purse and showed her frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times, " Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists."
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are
special and important.
Tell them, before it is too late...
AND ONE WAY TO ACCOMPLISH THIS IS:
Forward this message on.
If you do not send it, you will have, once again passed up the
wonderful opportunity to do something nice and beautiful.
If you've received this, it is because someone cares for you and it means there is probably at least someone for whom you care.
If you're "too busy" to take those few minutes right now to forward
this message on, would this be the VERY first time you didn't do
that little thing th at would make a difference in your relationships?
The more people that you send this to, the better you'll be at
reaching out to those you care about.
Remember, you reap what you sow, what you put into the lives of
others comes back into your own.
MAY YOUR DAY BE BLESSED AND AS SPECIAL AS YOU ARE.
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